Monday, 10 June 2013

Dealing With The Breakup Blues

Having to let go of someone that you love is a difficult thing to do especially when you live in a small city where everybody knows everybody and you can't even leave your house without running the risk of bumping into your ex around every other corner!!
Then there are the annoying questions from people that you hardly know about why you guys broke up and telling you how much they think you should be with your ex, how right you two are for each other and and AND!  Not only is it frustrating but it also becomes downright annoying!
Like for crying in a beer, if I could I would be with my ex but I can't because the asshole walked out on me!
He's somewhere on the other side of town with a girl that just finished high school this year probably ogling her perky little b-cups while I'm over here answering your stupid questions feeling like a fool and crying inside.
Now take a hint from my fake-smile and excuse me, I need to go weep in the bathroom at the bar that we're at :''''( 

I've been on the receiving end of so much advice when it comes to dealing with a break up. I've been told that ''the best way to get over someone is to get underneath someone else.'  Just last night a friend told me 'Loosing someone that you love through a breakup is like having someone that you love pass away'!!!??? I told him that I understand what he means but lets be real, I don't see dead people holding hands with their new girlfriend in the clubs that I frequent!!

After about 3 years of being hung up on my ex I took to asking a few friends to give me a list of five tips they have for getting over an ex.  Some of the answers are really interesting and FUNNY and I plan on doing most if not all of them in the hopes that I finally get the person in question out of my system once and for all.

I do however do feel like I need to share that I have kept my distance from my ex, I do not stalk him nor do I harass his new girlfriend.  I've let him know that I still love him and that when he's ready and if I haven't moved on by the time that he is ready that I will gladly have him.  I still believe we could make it work because maybe the timing was off back then. Or maybe I'm just holding onto invisible strings but I am a hopeless believer in love overcoming all obstacles and breakups and I am willing to give the asshole another shot because he means so much to me.
Nonetheless I am going to try the things on the lists because I have to try right?
You know, incase I get bored of waiting on his comeback ;)

Below are some of the tips I've collected to help me (and maybe you) get over our exes:

1. Drink (get drunk and numb the pain)
2. Cry (let it all out. cry as often as you need to)
3. Just move on, let go
4. Take a trip out of town
5. Get high YAAAAY
6. Spend time with people that you love (not your ex! people that love you back)
7. Rebound sex (eeeeek!!)
8. Get mad, get even, get revenge. LOL! NO!
9. Get rid of all reminders of him (noooo I love sleeping in his jersey)
10. Avoid the places he frequents (But I wanna see him though)
11. Make yourself feel good (masturbation? HYFR)
12. Always make sure to look your best (always try to anyways)
13. Go out as often as possible (Its cold out though)
14. Step your game up
15. Avoid communication
16. Accept that it's over :-(
17. Find yourself
18. Stay positive (How?? I lost the love of my life!!)
19. Pamper yourself (HYFR)
20. Get dolled up and make sure he sees you
21. Ignore him
22. Keep busy
23. Meet new people
24. Distract yourself
25. Do everything you couldn't do in the relationship
26. Every time you think of him just tell yourself over and over again to forget about him
27. If all else fails, see number 26 :'''''D

It seems that everyone has their own way of dealing with the breakup blues, my advice:
Do whatever works for you.

Thank you to everybody that gave me their little lists and to YOU for reading and if you're ever in need of a really long list of methods tried and tested by people just like me and you, you know where to find them :)


4 comments:

  1. One day is one day!!! Very well written

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  3. Hahaha, this was a good read.
    I have tried almost everything on this list, #1 being the most tried. However every "I'll get drunk and numb the pain" always ends with a drunk dial or I end up texting or calling the /amis which is even worse. I ultimately end up feeling like a self-loathing, psycho bitch so now I try to steer clear of alcohol.
    I just talk myself out of it or I remind myself of his flaws, like "he snores, why am I even trynna cuff a nigguh that snores **naar**"

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