This is not a post about the babydaddies that stuck around
This is not about the man who tagged along to prenatal visits with the woman bearing his child.
This is not about the man who was there on the day of the birth of his seed and everyday following.
This is not about the prince that makes sure nappies and milk are stocked up for his baby.
This is not about the king that stays up late changing diapers and feeding his little one.
This is not about the chief that kisses booboos, shows love and gives little cuddles to little people.
This is not about the daddies that are worthy of the title.
This is for the babymommas desperately holding onto the cracks in the foundations of the dreams of a happy family.
This is for the babymommas hopelessly clutching at invisible strings holding together two people who once came together to bring about the existence of a beautiful being but who can no longer be.
Ladies. Wake up!
Its 2AM on a Friday night, your baby is having a screaming match with you and guess where the man that you are dying to be with is?
He is in the club buying out bottles for other women in the VIP;
He is in bed with his new lover;
He is off on a weekend getaway with his boys;
AND to be quite frank he could care less about you and the sleepless nights you have raising HIS child. He has gone on to live the life of a childless man and yet you still insist that the two of you belong together!!
I understand, he is the father of your child and you care about him, you always will, I mean he did help make the most important little person in your life after all.
You want to believe and dream of a day the three of you will be a happy family, you tell yourself that if you keep sleeping with him and making yourself emotionally available for this man that one day he might realize how great you are and maybe even marry you.
I'm not here to crush dreams and I'm not saying that it won't happen but at least only give yourself to him if and when he starts proving himself as a father to someone who is his blood.
Because if he cannot be loyal and responsible in his own child's life then what makes you think he will commit to you in any way?
And lets say he does not end up committing to you. That means that you might miss out on a chance with someone who truly wants to be there for you and who will exhaust all his efforts to do so.
REALIZE:
1 You and your little one(s) already are a family with or without a man
2 You can be as happy as you allow yourself to be
3 You deserve a man that takes care of his responsibilities
4 Continuing a sexual relationship with this man (babydaddy) will not guarantee his return
5 Any man would be luck and happy to have you (at least any man smart enough to know when he has a good thing)
It is alright to let go, to move on and allow love in your life even if it does not come from the father of your child.
Do not become disheartened, love does exist.
Your child is a blessing embrace those late nights, bond with him/her at every opportunity and strengthen your family ties with them.
Show love and instead of wasting energy on a man who is no longer interested in you or the well being of his child, save your energy for your baby - he/she needs and deserves it more.
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